Dead beat dad? You tell me!

Dead Beat… Think again bitch

If there is any one thing that I learned from my mom that I use on a regular basis it is to not call my sons father names or talk shit about him in front of my son. If there is any one thing that I learned from my mom that I use on a regular basis it is to not call my sons father names or talk shit about him in front of my son.

My Biological father was a real piece of shit to be honest. He left my Mom with 3 kids and never paid child support. For a few years after they split I recall him coming to pick up my brothers but he never picked me up. I am still not sure as to why. However my mom never, not once in my childhood ever talked bad about my sperm donor. (He doesn’t deserve the title as a dad in my eyes. I have an amazing dad!) When I was old enough to see for myself what a piece of crap he was my mom then explained what happened and, to this day she nor my “Dad” will not talk shit about the sperm donor. They will agree with me if I bring something up. But they will not on their own talk bad about him.

I do the same thing with my son. His dad and I do not see eye to eye and he left me when I was only 2 months pregnant. But I’ve not said one bad thing about his dad in front of him. Why you ask? Because, his dad is half of him. Maybe not now but someday there is that chance of him recalling me saying something and he brings it back to him. Like I’m calling him names or I think badly of him because of who is father is. Probably not but you never know.

I am writing this blog today because my boyfriends ex wife had the nerve to call him a dead beat on facebook the other day. Yep 2 of their 3 kids have a facebook account and seen this. One is 22 years old and one is 17. Thank god they know that is not the case. My boyfriend works hard to support his kids and makes sure she gets her child support on time but we are in the middle of starting a business. His check is a few days late and she has the nerve to call him a dead beat, on FACEBOOK (hello internet). I couldn’t believe it.

To me a dead beat is someone who hasn’t paid child support for months or years not, a half a week late. Someone that doesn’t give 2 shits less what their kids are doing, prime example my sperm donor. Since me and Curt have been together almost 8 years now he has paid her child support every month if not week by week. He goes out to Boston to see his kids that do not live here for Christmas and has a Christmas with just him and his kids. We also try to plan a family vacation every summer so we can go see his kids for 2 weeks. He would love to have all his kids  here with him. I’m sure one day they will all be here in AZ with us but until then we will just have to go see them when we can.

Sorry but this is not a dead beat dad, what’s your definition of one?

 

Come on, is this really something we should be saying to our kids?