Across the street from us used to live my daughters best friend Anna. Well due to a course of events mom and her girls have
moved away but her dad is still my neighbor. He has never once said hi or even
boo in our direction. On certain days Anna is visiting and always ends up at my
house. The other night this was exactly what happened.
My daughter Bella, son Nate, and Anna are all playing outside. My husband,
Nathan, had filled the pool up so they Across the street from us used to live
my daughters best friend Anna. Well due to a course of events could play
Barbie’s in it and he was washing one of our cars. Nathan had just finished up
and was putting away the soap and bucket. All of a sudden we hear a scream and
see my daughter running through the front door. "Nate bit Anna!" Now
the thing about this is Nate loves Anna, she's his little crush; she brings him
rocks and flowers over all the time, so this is very abnormal for my son to do
something like this to Anna. Now mom, dad, and sister, yes we've all suffered
the wrath of a bite from him but he's never bit anyone else ever. Anna comes
running in and she's crying holding her arm. I ask to see it and sure enough my
son bit the shit out of her. Full mouth of teeth wide open. I immediately grab
the ice and get an ice pack going. I'm freaking out my son just bit someone and
he didn't just bite he almost drew blood! It looked as if he was trying to take
a chunk out of her arm.
Now I've got to bit the bullet and walk Anna home and explain this huge bite
mark on her arm to her dad, mom is not there. Oh shit what's mom going to say?
I don't want to do this but as a parent we've all got to buck up once and a
while and take care of business. So I grab Anna’s hand and walk her across the
street. My daughter is tagging along as moral support, she's telling Anna don't
worry I'll bite my brother back really hard for you. "Um no Bella that’s a
no a, no one is going to bite anyone!"
I knock on the door and wait, my heart is racing. I've never had one of my kids
hurt someone else before and I'm am not ok with biting at all. Dad comes to the
door and I explain everything, show him the bite mark and explain this is going
to leave a mark and I am so sorry. I see his face kind of glaze over and I know
he's thinking what the hell am I going to tell her mom. He thanks me for coming
over and leaves it at that. But I'm still worried about mom. I have had my
daughter bit like this before, once in the face, and I was livid! So I'm
expecting a knock on my door once mom comes to pick her up. GREAT!
I come back home to find my son crying in his room where he's been sent by dad.
Nathan explains to me that Anna was hitting Nate with a stick that’s why he bit
her. He says I didn't spank him I just sent him to his room until dinner. Now
for my son he took this as he was not getting dinner and that was almost as
harsh a punishment as a spanking would have been. My husband and I are debating
back and forth the getting hit with a stick and biting for it. Hands down I say
biting is a No No and you should never bite anyone, but my husband seen it as
he got hit with a stick and he defended himself.
I glance out the window and see mom pulling in to pick up her girls. I quickly
rush out the door. I felt the need to catch her before she came banging on my
door. I explain everything all over again, the bite, the ice pack, talking to
dad, it’s bad and I am so sorry. She thanked me very much for letting her know,
told me they would watch it, and that kids do things like this. I'm pretty sure
she was still pretty pissed, she hadn't seen the bite yet but she left it at
that. And the thing is kids do things like this but it still doesn't take away
the fact that my son left a mark on her that I'm pretty sure it not going
anywhere for a while. He hurt her, stick hitting or not and I am not ok with
that at all.
How would you have handled this situation? What is an acceptable punishment for
biting?
